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How to get a girl to like you


8 Great tips to get the girl

Knowing how to get a girl to like you is probably one of the most important skills any guy should learn. Maybe you are looking for a girlfriend or maybe just a woman for a short-term fling. Either way you need to know how to attract women and this is why we’ve created these great tips.

1. Learn how to Flirt

Girls do not go to bars to be bored by some guy, telling them about his job, car and salary (Hint: This is not attractive!). They go to bars to have fun. And that’s exactly what flirting is…. having fun.

Some really simple ways to flirt are to tease the girl you are flirting with as if she was your little sister, saying things like,

“Hmmm, maybe we should take you shopping to get you some nice clothes”


“Didn’t your mommy tell you to be nice to boys?”

You may notice that these lines may sound mean, but one of the key aspects to remember when flirting is that you need to say things that may sound harsh but you actually are just being playful and not rude at all. So remember to smile when you use flirting lines like the ones above

If there is one thing you remember from this how to get a girl to like you article, then remember try and remember this flirting advice!

2. Don’t worry about the outcome

how to get a girl to like you, dating tips, seduction, pick up linesSo many guys go to bars, clubs and parties and are hoping that they will find a girl to bring home. As a result they put a lot of emphasis on getting the girl.

They constantly worry, “Did I say the right thing?” or “Am I losing her?”. All this second-guessing and doubting yourself results in you not having fun! Worst of all, girls will smell it. She will see through what you are doing and how you are acting.

Girls want to be around guys that give them good emotions (Hint: Fun is a good emotion). So that is one of the main things you need to concentrate on when figuring out how to get a girl to like you. Stop worrying if you are wearing the right shoes. Stop worrying if you chose the right cologne. Most importantly, stop worrying if what you just said will get the girl to like you.

If she sees that you are having fun and aren’t worried if you don’t get laid tonight, then she will be far more attracted to you than the guy who is desperately trying to impress her.

3. Get a life….. Seriously

Many seem to forget that what people value most are things that are scarce. People value gold, silver and platinum more than stainless steel becuase they are far less available.

When people are learning how to get a girl to like you, they think that they should make a girl the centre of their world, that they should call her every day and not talk any other girls.

This is wrong, wrong, wrong. Doing these things will not make a girl more attracted to you. Instead it will send her the other way.

Women like men who have a passion in their lives other than girls. This is why girls love men who are artists or musicians.

So the main point here is to make sure you have a life outside of trying to get some girl. It may seem counter intuitive, but as Neil Strauss aka Style said in his book, The Game, “The best way to pick up girls is to have something better to do than to pick up girls”.

In other words…. get a life and don’t make any one girl the centre of your world.

4. Stand out

When people start learning how to get a girl to like you, they sometimes are afraid of being different. They don’t want their friends to laugh at them for having a funny dress sense or different haircut.

What a lot of people forget when they are trying to attract and seduce women is that girls are attracted to people like rockstars, surfers or even bikers.


The main reason is because these guys (rockstars, surfers, bikers, etc.) are not afraid to look different. Women find this really sexy.

Think about it for a minute…..

What’s sexier: A guy who wears chinos with a polo shirt (like every other guy) or a guy covered in tattoos on a motorbike?

Some people may have heard of the pick up artist Erik von Markovik aka Mystery and his term peacocking (which means to wear items of clothing that make you stand out). This can work, but taken to an extreme means that you’ll end up looking like a clown.

What is far more effective though is to wear items of clothing that make you stand out and immediately lets her categorize you as sexy.

So in short….

Stand out in a sexy way, not a weird way

5. Touch her

So many guys are afraid to touch girls when they are learning how to get a girl to like you.

They feel that it’s disrespectful. (Hint: They are wrong)

Touching a girl is a great way to get a girl to like you, provided you do it in the right way.

Initially your touches need to be subtle and friendly. So touch her on the elbow, upper arm, shoulder and side of her body.

If she is comfortable with you touching her in these places then you can start touching her more romantically, such as on the back, small of the back, hips and even try hugging her.

If she is comfortable with you touching her repeatedly in these places, then you can be pretty confident that she is attracted and likes you.

For those of you who read pick up artist (PUA) material, you may have heard touching referred to as kino or kinesthetics.

Important note to bad guys: If a girl is ever uncomfortable with you touching her then stop!

6. Lighten up

As I’ve previously said in the first point (Learn how to flirt), serious guys are boring and not attractive. This is the single most important thing to remember when learning how to get a girl to like you! Lighten up and have fun.

Does this mean that you should start acting like a clown doing magic tricks and constantly making jokes? Hell no!

Instead you should not take anything too seriously. When minor inconveniences happen to you, just laugh them off. So if you spill your drink a bit, don’t be embarrassed, just laugh it off.

Say you got a parking ticket. A little annoying? Yes, for sure. But making a big deal out of it will not make girls attracted to you. Shrugging your shoulders and changing the subject will.

The same goes for talking about your job, government fiscal stimulus plans or your favorite shade of gray. These subjects are boring! There are far more interesting things to talk about such as sports, celebrity gossip, birthday/holiday plans or even crazy stories from your past.

7. Learn how to plan a date

This is crucial; girls have a strong fear of social awkwardness. This is something you may discover as you are learning how to get a girl to like you.

Organizing long dinner dates or a movie date has the potential for social awkwardness, so even if a girl may like you a bit, she may still may turn down your date offer it she suspects that it may be awkward.

So to prevent this from happening is simple. Never ask a girl to go on a date. Instead casually tell her that you have plans to go to an event (such as a music gig, art exhibition, or party) and then invite her to come with you.

The most basic way to organize a great (socially awkward free) date is to make sure that the focus of any date is on having fun instead of you two sitting opposite each other as if it were some sort of interview.

8. Put a smile on her face

This point is related to both point 1 (Learn how to flirt) and point 6(Lighten up). One of the best things to do when learning how to get a girl to like you is to put a smile on her face.

The great thing about putting a smile on her face and making a girl laugh is that it is very disarming. It brings her good emotions and as everyone knows, girls do not want to be around people who make them unhappy or bored.

So to put a smile on her face you can tell jokes, tease her or even tell her a funny story that happened to you recently. Just remember that you don’t need to make her laugh every second of the interaction.

Hope you guys find these tips on how to get a girl to like you helpful. For more great advice please check out the rest of the site.

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